Kennedy modeling Kora's hair. |
There is a different set of rules when your child has cancer
in regards to discipline. It is
very hard to not let them get away with everything and anything. Also, the self-soothing technique we as
parents spend months helping them learn when they are infants is also out the
window. With all the craziness
Kennedy experiences, we never want her to feel sad or inconvenienced, we want
to make it all better and in the process, she has forgotten how to self-soothe aka
– put herself to sleep. This may
not seem so bad; you may figure we can lay with her until she falls asleep but
unfortunately she is up 2-3 times during the night and have start the process
over. I think I got more sleep
when she was an infant than I have in the last 80 days.
Last week, I put my foot down. She needed to learn how to put herself to sleep again and
the incentive was a visit to American Girl on her birthday in addition to her
birthday party. The deal was that
we would put her to bed at night but in the middle of the night when she gets
up to go to the bathroom, she would have to go back to sleep on her own. She would need to sleep through the
night for 3 consecutive nights without making us sleep with her or ending up in
our room. Well, some nights she
did good, others not so much. To
throw a curve ball, add in her hospital stay and itchy rashes and we have to
start from the beginning. When she
is sick, she can sleep in our room.
Kennedy's fashion show |
Last night, was the night of all nights. We have 4 nights until her birthday and
it counted as the first of 3 consecutive nights. She wouldn’t go to sleep on her own so she agreed that if I
listened to her meditation tape with her, she would not wake us up in the
middle of the night. I
agreed. At 3:30 am, we got a tap,
tap, tap on the door followed by
“I can’t to sleep by myself”. I said fine, bring your pillow and blanket
in our room but remember, this means no American Girl Doll. She decided to go back into her room
after a quick potty break. 10 minutes later, another tap, tap, tap – “mom, I peed
in my bed”. Well, that wasn’t
possible, I just heard her go pee.
I said “Kennedy, go back to bed”.
She said, “mom, really, I peed in my bed”. I got out of my bed and felt her pajama bottoms and she was
soaked. I then went to her bed that
was also soaked….and cold. Turns
out she poured a cup of water on herself and bed to get me to come in and
change her sheets and put her back to bed. I had to pretend I was mad but it was pretty darn funny and
VERY witty. There comes the
problem again of how to discipline a bald little cutie with cancer.
Enough about my lack of sleep and Kennedy’s antics. The rest of the weekend went well. Kennedy got released from the big house
(hospital) by 2pm on Saturday, the shortest stay yet. She got to see grandma and put on a fashion show for
us. Sunday uncle Sergey came over
and hung out with dad and played outside with the kids. Dad took the kids to shoot some balls
later at the golf range but it started to rain.
Hanging out with Grandma and Jaxon |
Today K had some mouth sores and has been nauseas. Hopefully all will subside by her
birthday on Thursday.